“Once my family and I started seeing Barbara for family therapy, I have seen a major shift in my child. He loves coming in and is able to freely express himself.”—Champagne M.
What do you do when your family life is such a struggle…when you’ve read every psychology book, magazine and blog to get answers but the advice is contradictory and usually impractical?
If it seems like you don’t know which way to turn, then you’ve come to the right place. Through proven, practical techniques, I can help you work through the stress, anger and conflict that arises from issues that can prevent you from fully enjoying time with your family.
This path begins by creating a safe environment for all family members to feel heard and understood. This opens families to crucial communication flows, and allows each member to acknowledge their boundaries and responsibilities so balance within the family can be restored. Parents can establish healthy leadership roles, and their children will embrace the rules, roles and expectations essential to healthy and happy family life.
How I can help
For many of us, the obstacles to happiness in our lives stem way back. Generations back, even. And they manifest in mysterious ways.
To get some sense of how complicated and intertwined family systems can become, let me share the story of how I helped a teenager stop being bullied.
Bullying itself is a complex issue, but commonly victims themselves seem to alert bullies to a potential target through subtle unconscious behavioural, body language, and other social cues.
For one teenager I worked with, these cues had their seeds sown four generations earlier to potato fields in Ireland. I traced the family history to farmers who had been bullied off their land.
This bullying led the matriarch to become a bully to her children, one of whom, in turn, became a bully to his children—one of which was my client’s father.
This bullying was completely unconscious—the father simply felt strongly about certain values. But his efforts to instill these values were often aggressive. They stifled the family. And to avoid further escalation, his son learned to adapt to his father’s overbearing behavior by passively accepting it, and thereby unwittingly becoming a receptor for other bullies.
The father loves his children, but he was modeling the behaviors he knew, passed down from generations before. On self-reflection, he recognized what he was doing and he worked hard to correct his attitude, his language and his tone.
The bullying quickly dissipated at home and at school—and I’ve seen this kind of resolution happen over and over again.
Take the next step
What’s next? Set up a free consult to learn more about how I can help you create a loving, fun, understanding family environment. If you feel you could benefit from some support and guidance, please contact me, so we can set up a time to chat. I'd love to learn more about you and the challenges you're facing, so, together, we can develop a plan for you to access your best self, move past your obstacles and live your best life.